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I have an aunt, uncle and cousins in southerrn Illinois. It's a big family and it's one we see about every three years. They are the only part of my dad's immediate family still living in Illinois. I like the family a lot, but we aren't particularly close. My cousins are all in their 30s now. My cousin is getting married this weekend. We received an invitation to reception (I'm not sure what they did/are doing for their ceremony). I told my local cousin I was going and she decided to go, too. It's a 5 hour drive, so it would require leaving on Saturday late-morning and coming back Sunday.
Now, we are back from Seattle and have the 3-Day coming up. Money is tight. I know I'd have to end up charging everything for the trip and have been trying to avoid that. So, WWBD? Should I suck it up and go? Or should I just send a nice gift this week with my regrets? There was no RSVP requirement, so my cousin doesn't know if I'm coming or not. The only part I'd feel bad about is that I told my other (local) cousin I was going.
Sigh. Should I go, or should I be honest with local cousin about why I'm not going?
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9 comments:
I would be honest with local cousin and not go. Just send a gift.
Yep, I agree with the blonde.
You gotta look out for yourself (as much as I hate using that term). Don't go, but try to send a nice gift.
Here's my arbitrary advice. First, it's unclear whether you were going WIT the other local cousin, or you both are going independently of each other.
Second, aside from gas, can you minimize the expense by staying with family members? Can you wear something already in your wardrobe?
So now for my arbitrary advice. If you can go for less than $120 including gas money, then go and bring a mediocre gift. If the cousin is relying on driving with you, then up the threshold to $150. Otherwise, stay home and send a nice gift. :)
hm. The cousin is not riding with me. I thought of asking to share a room with someone, but Chris is a snorer and my options are my dad & his gf (nope..that's weird) and the local cousin AND HER NEW BOYFRIEND (nope, that would also be weird, given it's a new boyfriend...they probably see this as a weekend getaway).
So, $60 gas (although we COULD bum a ride with my dad) and $70 for a hotel, $55 meals on the road for Chris and I (lunch, snack before reception-unclear if it's a meal or just cake or hors d' ourves-, breakfast & lunch again ...). So yeah, I could do it for around $125...
But I think I'm leaning towards staying and sending a nice gift with a nice letter in the card.
I would be honest with local cousin and see where that takes you. If she were to split costs or offer more, would you still go? And do you really, really want to see this part of the family?
Otherwise, send a gift. But still be honest with the local cousin.
Okay, see I thought it was just you and that Chris was staying home. Since the local cousin isn't relying on you and is going with her BF, I agree you should just stay home.
I'd go because family is important, you don't see them to often and it's nice to renew the family comradarie, spirit, relationship, whatever.
Geez, now I agree with Puffy. Don't listen to me, I'm no help whatsoever.
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