I knew this was a danger when I signed up, but I thought if I didn't ever seek out anyone, nobody would really find me. WRONG! Let's look at my most recent friend request receipts in the last week:
1) J. This is good. An old high school classmate and DQ coworker. Sweet man.
2) Aunt D. Noooo! Relatives weren't supposed to find me! On a funny note, her real name is Madonna and she was a singer from way back. A really, really low budget country singer, but she had an album. :-) She's pretty cool as far as aunt's go, but no relatives!
3) V. This was an old family friend acquaintence. I was best friends with her niece and our extended families were pretty close. Later on, she became a higher-up colleague of mine as a fluke. She's retired now, but it's still too weird to have someone that was second in command at my workplace on there now.
4) K. Oh hell. This was an old middle school/high school friend. Me, D, & K were best friends, though we were all very different. K was the high-maintenance friend. Eventually she became too high maintenance for everyone & we couldn't take it anymore. Kind of an awkward ending to the friendship, but not horrid. Almost a mutual parting of ways. I think she's a good person and was a good friend at one time. However, the mere thought of restarting any friendship with her exhausts me.
Now Blogger is my last anonymous frontier, though I doubt anyone would find me on RTVW, either.
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Yes, I can relate. One of Michael's buddies or someone he knows directed him to my Facebook page like it was some big deal. And then I had the whole daycare almost fiasco, which seems to be fine. Although I didn't add the director as a friend, and I feel like she is looking at me differently now.
There are people I would rather not have find me. I think my saving grace is my married name.
So what's the etiquette on those non-wanted friend invites?
I am not a facebooker. Well, sort of not. I only created an account in response to an old friend who replied to my "What's up?" email with a "Read about me on my facebook" response. :( I don't update things on there, don't post pictures, and don't search for friends.
But they seem to find me. Some are okay. I accept without too much thought. But what about those who either I don't necessarily want or *gasp* who I don't know/remember?? Is it bad etiquette to just ignore those invites? I can always pass it off later that I am just not active on FB.
Then I get email requests to pass along to my sister. She "quit" the family 5 years ago. I won't give out her email address (assuming the one I had still works), but I also don't plan to explain the details of my family to those emailers either. I guess I can just ignore?
Man, and I thought OT code was complicated. Now I need to worry about FB etiquette as well.
I holey agree. I'm not at all happy about the people that a. have either found me or b. those that have been recommended for me to friend.
grrrrrrrr Not liking facebook at all.
This is why I have stayed away from Facebook. I do not wish to be found by anyone in Tom's family! That would be so distressing and inhibiting.
I used to worry about RTVW because one sister was a late-comer to Survivor fanaticism. Lots of people read there who never ever post.
I have only ignored two friend requests, and those were because I really didn't know the person and didn't care if it hurt their feelings. Otherwise, I feel like if there's a good chance I'll run into that person or care a little bit if their feelings would get hurt, I need to accept. 80% of the people that have friended me, I've been very happy to see.
Whoops. I guess my timing was bad. Eeep!
I just hit ignore. I've had a few requests and a few friend suggestions and I just ignore. I don't mind. Just because we see each other on Facebook and once knew each other doesn't mean we have to be friends. I have turned down about a dozen because I either don't know them or have no desire to be friends with them.
I said this elsewhere I just can't remember.
I didn't even know I had a facebook page until I received a request from Bravie. I don't remember ever setting one up, I have a sneaking suspicion my sister did it when she was here.
It's not even a name I would have registered under. Anyway, I don't play there. And resent how much time it's taking all of you all away from blogging!
What happens if you unfriend someone? I swear I have this one girl that I knew from college that sends my 3 friend reccomendations a day. It's driving me crazy!
Breezy, nothing happens. They just get removed from your list. No email or notification is sent to the person you're removing.
LOL-note your name was not on my "ack!" list, tkit!
And that's good to know about unfriending people.
Cool! That is very good to know.
Breezy, the only thing is, if this chick is accessing your profile to send you requests all the time, my guess is she is going to figure it out pretty darn quickly when you are no longer one of her 'friends' and she can't access your profile. Which can only lead to the inevitable 'friend request' from her since Facebook must have made an error and deleted her as your friend. *sigh*
Thanks for the heads up. I was sure this would happen as well, and am now glad I didn't sign up. Too creepy. I don't want to reconnect with some weirdo I sat behind in 7th grade science class.
You know too that you can "control" who sees what. Others don't have to see every action you take on there. They can just view maybe your profile and any "interaction" between just you and that person.
I've ignored people and have been "ignored" I assume. No big deal really. I mean any real friend I probably am speaking with anyhow. I do enjoy the reconnection though with some really old friends.
You can also say to your relative that you are only doing professional contacts and don't want friends or relatives.
Bottom line is that you don't have to allow anyone access to anything that you don't want that particular person to see.
OK that is weird...why did my comment come up that way? That's me up there!
My morning paper said that Burger King offered a free Whopper to anyone who would unfriend 10 people from their Facebook page. And just like that 200,000 people were dropped.
There's a deeper meaning in there somewhere...
*snort* That makes me laugh, Swami!
Zombs, I didn't know you could restrict certain things to certain "friends." Hm, I should look into this.
I have restrictions on mine. Plus, if you are married and don't have the same last name as you did in the past, it makes it harder for peeps to find you. You can set your profile to private so that anyone who is not on your friends list, can't see anything at all about you except for who your mutual friends are.
I've connected with a few from my past and it has been cool.
I have declinded friends and I have also defriended.
I don't even have enough time to keep up with my blog and OT, so I doubt I would ever sign up. After reading this, I am sure I will never sign up. I don't want anyone to be able to find me.
I've loved getting into FB over the past 3 weeks, and have enjoyed getting in touch with college and HS friends - but yes I see there could be issues with someone you don't want to be friends with. You've gotten great advice from your bloggy friends!
That's the exact reason why I'm not on Facebook.
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